I'm sorry to hear this as well. Especially because you said earlier you and your husband rarely if ever have sex, so bf was filling that need for you.
Is your husband supporting you through the grief of this sad possible breakup with bf? I am also wondering if you and the dh are connecting any better sexually lately.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)