Khas, I actually sympathize completely on that score. I am all about communication, which is supposed to be the ultimate holy grail in poly. But I've been discovering just what you have over the last year or so... that sometimes, some things really do need to be left unsaid. It's such a tough lesson for people who love to think and think and think and talk and talk and talk. I feel you.
And I shoulda said "that guy who is currently acting like an @ss", since I'm sure you're not inherently, incurably an @ss any moreso than most of us.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.