HC, I think you're being way too hard on River. I would encourage you to reread that post and think seriously about following the advice there. It's good advice, whether you want to hear it or not....
"But you've got to be tough when consumed by desire
'Cause it's not enough just to stand outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
When you're standing outside the fire"
Garth Brooks and Jenny Yates