Pure hell? All of you living together?
Sounds like a real problem. I'd seek therapy for all involved. Or you should all split up. But loving relationships are supposed to be only a very small portion of hell with a tremendously larger portion being heavenly -- and a good sized helping of okayness.
Stop the hell. Get counseling or end it. Life should not stay on the hell setting long.
And don't tell me it is only hell for the bf. That cannot be true, with you all living together in a family like situation. In a family, when one member's life is hell, the whole thing has hell in it.