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Old 09-14-2011, 08:50 AM
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I would much rather have a cup of tea and browse facebook, or catch up on my sleep than have a marathon sex session.
Have you looked into whether there are medical/hormonal causes for your low libido?

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It came to light about 10 years ago that he is interested in S&M . . . I am not really that interested in being a submissive.
Dominance & submission are not the same thing as S&M. You can take part in S&M without being submissive.

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. . . I have a high propensity for jealousy and have a huge problem with the idea of him with someone else. But what choice to I have realistically?
You have lots of choices! I don't think poly is be the best thing to jump into when you feel like your back is up against the wall. It will work so much better if it's embraced because you want it.
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