Well, my meeting with D went very well. He told me, before I could ask, that should his wife try to veto again he is prepared to stand up to her and not acquiesce right away. That makes me feel safer. Not completely safe, but safer.
I have also met her now. I did not ask her for assurance that she won't pull out the veto again unless the three of us can't work something out. I will at a later time. It just didn't feel right during this meeting, so I didn't ask. Trying to listen to my gut more....
D and I have agreed to go slowly. We've talked in depth about what we want this relationship to be. We have a date tonight. So far, so good. But I know it's early...
Thanks again for listening and sending energy.
JG