I'm going to send you (((HUGS))) too. I enjoy reading about you and your tribe... I don't get to hear enough from you.
I've heard it said before... never make someone a priority who treats you like an option.
Everything I read (and I know its one sided, but like you said, actions speak louder than words) tells me you're an option for her. People put energy and time into the things that are important to them. They let the things slide that are not.
I will use myself as an example. I love piano. I love playing it. I love getting lost in the music. However, despite the fact that there's a piano in my living room, I haven't played in at least 6 years. Why? Because its become less of a priority in my life. I put my energy and time into derby because it is a priority in my life.
(((HUGS))) to you.