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Old 09-13-2011, 12:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Derbylicious View Post
Kind of boils down to the same thing, doesn't it?
Well, I get what she means, I think...

She's saying that she can't really help what he's feeling about it. She is responsible for her part, but has no control over his reaction or how he handles it, which is his responsibility. And that's true, but unfortunately, she apparently does not have the time nor energy to comfort or support him as he processes what's going on inside him about this.
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