@Anna, she's been working with him for over 6 months, so it's not like he's new to her. As for the root cause, I've needed to make changes, and we've gone round and round for a while about it, but due to health issues and my own stupid self, it didn't start to happen until very recently. According to her, it's too little too late. I can't blame her there.
As I've read some of the other stories here, I realized how to phrase our situation. The relationship as it existed before is over, but she's willing to make the effort to make something work. I am not surprised at what y'all are telling me, that's what everything I've read says. She is committed to making our relationship work if I am willing to be a part of this type of relationship. I just don't know if I can.