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Old 09-12-2011, 09:22 PM
BaconWrappedCupcakes BaconWrappedCupcakes is offline
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Default Thought things were fine, now I realize they aren't...

Hello again. I posted a few months ago about meeting my BF's GF and the meeting went well. I am mono with BF, she is poly with him and others.

We exchanged emails for a while, but she kept bring him into the conversation, which I tried to steer away from. I don't feel comfortable discussing him with her. We stopped writing each other about a month or two after the lunch. I had told Him that I didn't feel comfortable with the over abundance of info she kept giving me and I felt overwhelmed.

I thought he communicated this to her and everything was fine. I have found out recently that she in fact hates me and thinks I have ruined their relationship. She is convinced that I want him for myself even though that is not true.

I do want a LTR, but I know it will not be with him. I enjoy what he and I have for what it is, he provides me with something I need in my life, so being mono with his poly is not that difficult for me.

I've read articles on poly, bought a book, and try to be open minded about it all, even though it is not something I could have in my own life. The times she has sent poly stuff to me, I wasn't sure what to say because I don't really agree with the statements.

I'm not sure what to do at this point as I like an idiot thinking this woman was ok with things as they were and no I find out she thinks I'm a giant bitchface and she hates me. I'm mad at him too for not telling me this was how she felt, as I could have told her the truth instead of her making it up in her own mind.

I'm confused, hurt, and afraid that he will leave to try and make her happy. He assures me that won't happen though. Thanks for the help.
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