Originally Posted by IrisAwakened
. After a few hypotheticals, I asked him to choose some person for our life to have a threesome with. He really liked that hypothetical, and I think it opened his mind a little for his opportunities.
I am glad the idea of a FMF 3way sparked his interest in poly, b/c he sees "whats in it for him." But, a word of caution. Finding a hot bi babe for a couple to "share" rarely works. Do a tag search here on unicorns to see how often these arrangements crash and burn. Usually the girl you attempt to share forms a deeper emotional/sexual connection with one or the other of the couple, and then all hell breaks loose. It seems in theory for a way for a couple to stay connected and to share things, to avoid jealousy, but it usually backfires because the other woman has needs and preferences of her own, which are unpredictable.
Today, after trying to read some Mono help resources, he basically said he didn't need that stuff because he didn't think he would stay mono. If I am poly, he wants to be too! I told him that was great news and might make things easier on him. Awesome!
I know we are in no way out of the woods, or anything close but I can see a glimmer of hope for us and our poly adventure!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, 37
We are both open to dating, but no serious other partners at the moment