Originally Posted by trueRiver
And maybe it really is better with the Na, but the idea of still being dependent on the Mum for contact with the child, even if the mum is my sister not my partner, still leaves me fearful. And then do I miss out if I only have brothers (as is the case?).
No, for me the solution is to move towards more equality, not back to a system that was invented before men's part in producing children was understood.
If you were in a small village, there'd be rugrats running around everywhere. You'd be free to bond with any or all of them as you chose, I'd reckon. And if you died, they'd still have lots of "mommies/aunts" and "daddies/uncles" to depend on.
I'm sorry your ex and you became so estranged she prevented more than occasional contact with your daughter right from the start, and now somehow has not even allowed the court ordered visitation. Good luck with that.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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