Thank you so much for the advice and it is well taken..
She and I talk almost everyday about every and anything and I also talk to him. I just explained to him that with him being the provider that he is he shouldnt have to live in a messy home.
I will just see what happens in the next couple of times I visit and see if there is a change and if not I will address it then. I guess the problem is that she wasnt embarressed about the way the home looked.
I didnt say this to either of them but it looks like a baby hoarders home, and it shouldnt because she doesnt work.