New to lifestyle as secondary....Help Please
New to lifestyle, but have a very open mind...met a wonderful man who is hard working with a good heart, he brought up that him and his wife have a open relationship and she is fine with him being with other women ane he stated he is looking for relationship like the tv show sister wives. I couldnt believe his wife agreed to this and I told him I would have to speak with her and then decide.
I spoke with her and she was cool with it. So they invited me to a BBQ they were having and I went and met his club brothers, their children and other family members and had a wonderful time, I ended up back at their house and we all slept together. She enjoyed watching him with me I watched them and she did me.
The problem I have is that she is lazy!!!!!!! And he is so committed to his wife and kids he soesnt put his foot down but wants to be in control when it comes to me. I want to tell him that she is lazy and their house is nasty but I dont feel like it is my place to say anything, but if they want me to spend time at their house it will have to be clean, I offered to clean the house and the wife was ok with that.
I guess my question is how much can I say as a secondary? What are the bounderies to how much the secondary can say?