Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
However, people who have been cheated on in ANY past relationship may harbour some real jealousy issues, no matter how responsible and safe their new partners may be. That is some of the emotional baggage they will have to sort out themselves eventually. It can get very tiring to constantly apologize for something others have done in the past.
I'd say they have an obligation to settle those issues prior to engaging in any new relationships. I categorically refuse to apologize for anything I've not done. I refuse to help carry that sort of baggage--they can carry it themselves or get rid of it.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.