Thinking of you Carma. We all three do. I translated your story for my men and they feel extremly sorry for you and send you their sympathy. Be strong and keep on moving. I hope you can come to an agreement that shows the path to something more respectful and loving for the future.
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.