Egad, I take back what I said about being judgmental! She's not being very smart at all. While I still see nothing wrong with having a period of casual relationships so soon after a break-up, I can't even fathom how she could have asked with a straight face that your hubs go bareback.
Or that she only wants a threesome and never any one-on-one time.
It's like you got the reverse nightmare of what unicorns go through. Here's a couple doing it right and she's got it all wrong. Well, at least ya gotta laugh at the irony of it.
You and she both know what you want and it's not a match.
No, your standards are not too high. Keep on keeping on! Oh, Lawdy!