Originally Posted by NeonKaos
How did you meet each other? Before you met each other, did you not have other people you were seeing that it didn't work out with? Why would it be any different trying to find a third partner? I don't think you should be so discouraged just because the first person you dated as a unit didn't work out.
Also, there will be no easy answer for you because people are still people and the vast majority of people do not make ideal partners for the vast majority of people, so my advice is to really be appreciative of the one relationship you already have and not get too hung up on "finding" another partner.
My attitude toward this kind of "seeking people" thing is not very popular around here. I prefer to engage in activities and socializing based on what I want to do, not based on whether it might yield potential partners. I joined roller derby because I want to skate - however there are lots of potential social connections to be made, but only now, after 2 years, am I beginning to REALLY connect with some of the other people. Same with recreational nudism - I go to the clothing optional campgrounds because I like to be naked and I hate wet bathing suits - however there are lots of potential social connections to be made. Although I am interested in medieval stuff, I do not have time to join the SCA - but if I did, I'd join because i want to do medieval stuff, not because there might be polyamorous people there.
If you don't like to go out or whatever, then I guess you're just going to have to keep shopping the internet and try to make that work for you.
Him and I met through a mutual friend and we were inseparable from the first day we met. We totally appreciate one another, but we've known for a long time that we really want to add to our relationship with another woman. At one point we toyed around with the idea of other configurations but ultimately we weren't comfortable having other relationships outside our our primary one or one that wasn't a triad.
I agree we both need to get out more. We both have hobbies we like to do, but they are mostly solitary. I ride a friend's horse fairly regularly, but it's by myself. He's big into comepetive gaming. I've thought about joing a local softball league or bowling league to get out more and make new friends.