Aww, thanks Nyc.
But I'm afraid I really don't think I have any advice to give here. My relationship with Davis both ended and restarted for very different reasons than what Julia is dealing with. And in restarting things I actually let Davis exercise a sort of veto by agreeing to table my sexual relationship with Harry. It's true that Harry and I weren't "officially dating" but, again, semantics...
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.