What I'm seeing lately (in more than one place) is everything being about ME ME ME all the time. To me a part of poly is empathy towards how your actions effect other people. Of course everyone is an autonomous being with free will but we are all also interconnected and should have the basic decency to treat others in the way that we, ourselves, would like to be treated.
I'm tired of hearing how someones desires/wants/problems come before those of everyone else. We all have our own shit going on all the time that we have to deal with. It doesn't negate our responsibilities in our relationships to treat those in our lives with compassion.
Mono has a phrase he uses, extended consideration. I like the spirit of that phrase. I find it good to keep in mind how what I want or do will effect not only my loves but also their loves. It works even better when a group of people employ the same principle.
So be excellent to each other...and party on dudes!
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.