I hope I didn't make you feel attacked, because despite the fact that I wouldn't do it myself, that doesn't mean I think it can't be the right choice for you. It makes me wonder, really, *why* the topic makes me so upset, since the difference really is only a semantic one.
As for helpful advice instead of just strongly worded opinions on the broader topic at hand... er... not so much, I'm afraid. I can say, at least, that I know from experience that restarting a relationship with an ex can work. Good luck!!
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.