Originally Posted by Carma
Just read your post NYC. Nail on head. I'm scared of him. Always have been.
Sundance has a TEMPER. He's never hit me, and I sincerely doubt he ever would. But his anger scares the holy hell out of me. He says I overreact to his anger, that it is MY problem, not his. [...] stepping over his head [...] I would never do that. He'd be fucking furious!!!
Sorry but this seems serious to me. You shouldn't be afraid of your partner. Full stop. If you both are aware of this dynamic, you should bear it in mind when dealing with this situation at hand. I can't offer advice on this special part, I have never experienced it, but I can't imagine that you are feeling good with something like this on your mind when dealing with complicated relationship issues. Please take care of yourself and get this sorted out. Good luck, I am sorry that I can't be of more help.
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.