There is tons on here about "unicorns (there, I said it)," "secondaries," "lessons" and "foundations" too if you do a search in the tags...
They can request what they want I reckon, you just don't have to go along with it if it is not reasonable to do so. It is reasonable to ask for private conversations, to build relationships with each of them individually as well as together and it is reasonable to go about doing your own thing... if these things are an issue and they are unwilling to negotiate some boundaries in regards to them, then, ya, walk.... no one should be dictated to unless it is agreed upon.
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