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Old 09-08-2011, 02:55 AM
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Originally Posted by DancingNancy View Post
. . . its so unrealistic to tell me that I can't have individual relationships.
Well, that's the biggest red flag right there, telling you whom you can or cannot have a relationship with. It does sound like they only want you for sex, and only on their terms. Either that, or one of them is probably very protective of the other and afraid. It seems like, relationship-wise, they are immature and/or insecure, and perhaps not really ready for poly. In fact, I don't even know why you're still considering getting involved. By the end of this thread, unless they've changed their position in this, if you've decided it's a "no go" it would seem quite a prudent decision. As it stands, what they want right now is sorta creepy.
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