I guess I am playing victim because I feel powerless to "make" him be more honest. Well it's true -- I can't.
I don't have to play victim, either, but it has been helpful to come here when I'm hurting and confused. People here remind me I do have choices and I can be more demanding and I can make ultimatums. I've just never been very good at enforcing boundaries. And I still feel like this whole poly thing was my doing, so it's MY problem. I brought it on myself.
Formerly married to Sundance
Boyfriend -- Butch Cassidy