I haven't read everything but; Question, why the triad? The fact is you likely won't fall for your metamour in the same way and you don't have to. Most poly relationships are vees. Sure, the metamour bond is a huge factor in successful poly relationships but that doesn't mean sexual or partnership commitments. Why not go into this with an open mind yet remind yourself and the others that there is no pressure here. Baby steps to getting to know each other is the first step. Not everyone is feeling your shared nre. I know it feels like it, but its likely not the case... Just from experience.
I think its awesome you are taking a break. Excellent idea. Nre fucks with your head I find.
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