Great point Ray.
This is something I have come full circle on as well.
In past attempts to do poly 'correctly,' I have stayed in situations far past their expiration dates. Hoping for something to give/change, when it really shouldn`t have changed. We were different people .
That`s OK. Moving on is just fine.
There is so much talk about not 'abandoning' people, and not 'discarding' them, that I have seen others, as well as myself, work at something much longer then they should have.
Of course, only those people can decide those things.
Some people are able to compromise more then others, and for longer periods of time. I have seen some mono`s on here, compromise to huge extents.
It doesn`t make the relationship a failure, as long as respect stays mutual.