Does anyone else find meeting other poly people hard?
Yes! Even on ok cupid, here in Mass, it's hard to find someone who is poly. Many people, single, married or partnered, will tell you they are, and then when you get to know them, you find out they think it means being a sexual slut who will do anything with anyone. Or, it means they practice don't ask don't tell, or only do casual sex/one night stands, or they are just lying cheaters.
Even if they and their partner are poly, they are noobs who have not dealt with the challenges of NRE, or with their jealousy, or have made any progress in knowing what their boundaries are, etc etc.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, poly, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 37