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Old 09-05-2011, 12:36 PM
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No married cheaters for me, thank you very much!

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Originally Posted by sugarhigh980 View Post
. . . but what if you really care for this person and have a very close bond and desire? Is it your responsibility to walk away from this person?
I would think that, because you care about them, you must walk away. I would never want to be the reason a close friend lies to his spouse, making me a dirty little secret - ecch! Sexual desire can happen with lots of people, so I'd look for someone else. Your desire for this person will cool; it isn't worth wrecking a monogamous marriage over.

Someone started a similar thread recently. You may find it helpful: Who's responsibility?
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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