Sounds like a good time to consciously and deliberately work on self-inquiry and communication between the two of you. Communication skills in these areas don't just automatically appear, but generally need cultivating. So it is with self-inquiry of the sort that is probably needed. I recommend finding and reading good books and articles on these subjects ... and talking about them together. Become allies to one another and move forward as friendly allies in one another's growth, healing, development....
If needed, seek a well-chosen relationship counselor. But do the work together even outside of counseling, either way.
It's all about being open, honest and "vulnerable" with one another in the safe and supportive atmosphere you deliberately cultivate together as allies and friends.
Have a look at the work of John Welwood, for example. http://johnwelwood.com/
<--- One of my favorites.
Most of Welwood's books are about relationships.: http://www.johnwelwood.com/listofbooks.htm