I think you two need a way to get past your wife's screaming and tears in order to see what's going on underneath it all. Fear? Shame? Regret? Possessiveness toward you? It would be helpful to be able to talk about the nitty-gritty without all the drama. Do you think a third party would help? Like a counselor or even just asking her to post her side here?
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