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Old 09-04-2011, 04:03 PM
trueRiver trueRiver is offline
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Manchester, England & Tain, Scotland
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Originally Posted by leannahope View Post
My husband started out by being poly, got married, decided to have an open marriage, and then I found another guy that made me happy and I consider him my boyfriend. So I guess we're poly again?
If that was all, it would be poly

My husband isn't interested in finding a girlfriend, just casual sex,
Then your relationship with your husband is open, or possibly open/poly

however, my boyfriend is very much a mono, and doesn't want anyone outside of his relationship with me at the moment.
I would say that the fact that he is content for you to have multiple partners makes the relationship poly.

Some people would call it poly/mono to reflect the difference. But for me, the acceptance of a third partner means that your boyfriend is not the usual jealous mono.

Does the fact that we all have different drives/desires for relationships change the definition of the group?
yes, the group as a whole is not poly (some casual sex), nor is it a swinger group (you have more than one loving sexual relationship). It is ethical and open (ethical as everyone knows what is going on, everyone consents),

open if (as I think you mean) your husband is allowed to have casual sex with people outside the relationship?

But this is all words. What matters is that all of you are content with all the arrangements. If so, who cares what it is called?

There are two Rivers here now: which one is this?

quaker poly experiences and poly: a quaker perspective

I hope other British Quakers who are poly (or wonder if they are) will contact me here, thanks, Friends.
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