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Old 09-04-2011, 03:35 PM
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Originally Posted by MichelleZed View Post
I know Annabel is continuing her relationship with girlfriend Gia while Gia has a young baby. But their dynamic has changed a lot and they've had to put some things on the back burner (right, Annabel?). It's just part of what we do for those wonderful little ones!
Yep. It's our intention that physical intimacy be merely "on hold" for us, but there's no way for us to know how long that'll be or if, in fact, it'll work out that way. That said, our emotional dynamic has grown, if differently perhaps than it might have if she wasn't going through this stage in her life right now. And as for the physical part, I hardly need tell you that pregnancy and birth are different for every woman. For instance, Gia is kind of creeped out by her new role as a milk dispensary (though she's very commited to breastfeeding), while you seem more excited about it.

The thing that's allowed me to stay in her life is an active interest in what's she's been going through and a desire to help out and take part. If I weren't as willing to change diapers and soothe her child with her as I am to talk with her and kiss her, we might not need to break up but I absolutely can't see how I could remain the large figure in her life that I have. When and where could our relationship happen if not in the context of caring for her child, when her whole life right now involves caring for her child?

Again, though, it'll be different for every person. Gia and Eric are doing attachment parenting, which puts a lot of emphasis on being close to your child as much as possible. I fully expect us to get back to going out on dates and that sort of thing, but it will probably take longer and happen less often than it might for someone with a different parenting style.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
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