Okay--had a long talk to Sven over g-chat yesterday... about Star Wars. We've had the argument before: he feels like being a Jedi is the perfect way to live, and I feel like Jedis unhealthily repress normal emotions (fear of loss leads to the dark side? really?). So we argued about that for awhile and then sort of shifted somehow into a sexy discussion. I think we are back on.
Progress also with the husband. I told him I was on this forum and have even begun discussing some of the topic brought up on other threads with him (so thanks for posting, everyone!).
Update on the third man in my life: he is kicking up a storm in there! He also likes listening to music, and kicks hardest during the Tchaikovsky Violin Concerto.