Originally Posted by Carma
I can't find the post I wrote earlier, maybe I didn't send it right(?) If I'm repeating myself, sorry....
Porn can cause intimacy problems in a marriage. (At least that's what the latest research is finding).
Could those intimacy problems lead to the desire to explore new relationships?
This is something I've wondered myself, so I'm trying to conduct an experiment: lay off the naughty websites and see how or if my feelings change. Like high-fat, sugary foods, the naughty websites can be hard to let go (forgive the pun), but I think the exercise in self-knowledge is worth it.
One thing that I've found right away is that my fantasies (daydreams, whatever you want to call them) have become even more romantic than they were before, and they weren't all that sexual to start with. That may just be me--a sample size of one is too small for any reasonable inferences. At any rate, my need/desire to love others has not gone away, but it's early days yet.
If I understand the situation in this thread correctly, CheesyLady is not herself a viewer of internet porn, yet she most definitely identifies as poly, so there's another potential data point ("the plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data,' the plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data' ...").