Originally Posted by NeonKaos
Geez. Of course I don't say to one partner I'm fucking that I'm thinking about someone else. And I don't "fake" or "feign" interest. Sheesh. Believe it or not, some people actually ARE turned on by the idea of their partner thinking about or having sex with someone else. I don't rub it in their faces though.
You probably think watching porn is "cheating" too.
It doesn't bother me that my wife thinks about her bf during sex, it kind of turns me on. Sometimes I ask her what she thinking about, she always tell me the truth. I've been in a poly mono relationship for 17 years, works for us. When she has a new bf, i give her some space and let the NRE play out. We have less sex while she going thru NRE, but when we do have sex its some of the best sex we have. I know she is thinking about her bf, but she fucks the hell out of me. Don't care what she thinking about,the sex is great.