If you want your OSO's to "step up" in your life, why does that mean that you and your current primary have to "step down" from one another? Is there a reason you couldn't each do a co-primary thing?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.