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Old 09-02-2011, 02:03 AM
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Originally Posted by troubles View Post
We have talked about it so much that there's nothing left to say.
That's quite a defeatist position. Don't give up.

Originally Posted by troubles View Post
He wants me to stop doing anything with her, though.
Am I wrong, but didn't you say he got upset after the second time, when her husband was there and things went farther than your husband expected? I would assume that his problem is with her husband taking part, not her.

Originally Posted by troubles View Post
I don't even know what I want anymore.
Well, if you don't know what you want, then how can anyone help? No wonder there is "nothing left" to talk about. I think the best thing you can do is sort out what it is you want. What kind of relationships do you desire - with your husband, yourself, other lovers (if any), the world? What will make you happy? And then can you figure out how to go about manifesting those into your life.
The world opens up... when you do.

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