Originally Posted by redpepper
My only complaint is with her general sweep that people with mental health issues should be avoided at all cost. I don't think that is fair.... he experience maybe, but not everyone's...
I think its a good heads up to relationships of any kind in life really.
I don`t think she ever wrote that.
I do believe ( haven`t checked to verify) if memory serves me correctly, her stance is that you should think twice about dating anyone with any kind of mental health issue if they HAVEN`T done the neccessary hard work to figure out what works for themselves both through meds and therapy.
I think her point was that polyamory is hard enough, and adding in someone with a uncontrolled/undiagnosed/unstable issue is going to be very hurtful to all in the long-run.
Many people with good intentions, think their love will 'fix' whatever ails their poly partners. Even those with mental health issues understand that they themselves, have to want, desire, and choose to do whats best for their own self, in order to live up to their full potential. ( and be good partners to others.)