Hi leanna! Welcome to the board.
What happened with the live-in gf? You 2 dumped her when you decided to get married and thought you needed to be mono? Or where there other problems? Was it an equilateral triangle? Or did she prefer one of you over the other for romance/sex?
I am glad you 2 realized, after a while, that being married didn't mean you had to go against your natures and be mono.
Good luck with the new bf.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)