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RenegadeOfFunk 05-17-2011 10:30 PM

The last two weeks of my life have been INSANE!
The last two weeks of my life have been INSANE! In a good way. Let me start by introducing myself, name is Robin and I always felt "out of place" for a lack of better words to describe the way I handle relationships. I am awkward, ALWAYS so if this sounds weird, I am sorry haha I am 28, from NC... moved out of the country for a few years and now I find myself in New England and surrounded with people who accept me for who I am and have similar outlooks on life, politics, relationships etc... A few of the people I have met up here introduced me to ideas about relationships that I find more and more close to what I have felt for a really long time but was klind of scared to just say it out loud...................

So here is a little background on what is going on with me now. I have been with my husband on and off since we were in high school, we got married, decided to dabble in a little bit of swinging... All was well, no jealousy or anything at all. Open communication, honesty, no one does anything the other does not approve of.

I just hit a major realization a few days ago and I am not sure how to feel about it. I met someone who I was really sexually attracted to, and also friends with. (no plans of an emotional relationship with this person at this point had even been dreamed of). Told my husband about it and he told me to go meet up with my friend and let him know how I feel... We talked, then texted and made kind of an agreement to continue hooking up as long as both of us are ok with it and see where it goes. I made it very clear I wanted no emotional ties at all before it started.

Now I think I may be interested in maintaining a relationship with someone other than my husband, something I had never really thought of before.

My husband was the first to notice that me and my "friend" may have some kind of feelings for eachother, so now I am trying to figure out what those feelings are, how to let the "friend" know without freaking him out, and from that point decide where the heck we want the relationship to go from here...

oh man I got more than I bargained for... any advise is much appreciated :)

bitterborn 05-17-2011 11:35 PM

No advice other than to change "other than my husband" to "in addition to my husband" It is amazing at how it can open channels of communication.

RenegadeOfFunk 05-17-2011 11:41 PM


definitely sounds much better with that wording, like I said I am awkward... sometimes my thoughts sound horrible when I write them down/say them outloud haha

Hopeful 05-19-2011 10:59 PM

I am right there with you on the part about trying to figure out what to say to that "friend." I have one too. Husband is fine with it, "friend" seems to be open to the idea of something, and I have no idea how to start this conversation! I have no advice other than that you're not the only one in that particular boat. I know that just knowing that has made me feel a lot better since I started reading this forum.

If anything comes to you, could you let me know? :D

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