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Erin 05-15-2011 12:46 PM

He/She’s Just Not That Into You Quiz: 13 Questions to Ask Yourself
 
I recently read this article online and thought it too good not to share in a new thread... I've modified it as He/She for everyone :)

"He/She’s Just Not That Into You Quiz: 13 Questions to Ask Yourself"

"Are you a man or woman who has obsessive thoughts about hotties who sweep into and out of your life? Well, you are not alone. They waste hours and hours thinking and dishing about how, “They've got a deadline at work,” or, “They're really in the process of leaving the marriage.” Of course, none of the stories are the reason he/she doesn’t call, text, or email. The real reason is: he/she’s just not that into you.

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Source: http://www.lovein90days.com/he-is-ju...that-into-you/

Ivy 05-15-2011 05:07 PM

Thanks for posting this. I might just frame it.

NeonKaos 05-15-2011 06:47 PM

This quiz is not really in the poly spirit of allowing relationships to take whatever form they may, and all that jazz; but it is applicable for folks who have certain goals and agendas ("I want to be married with children by the time I'm 35", etc.) and want to do as much as they can to avoid "wasting" time with people who are not compatible with those goals.

Erin 05-15-2011 06:59 PM

@NeonKaos:
Many people on here struggle by questioning whether or not a person is really interested in them, so I thought I'd share the quiz. Sure, it was written for the traditional type of male/female relationship, but these questions can still be applied to anyone who simply wants to know if their love interest is truly invested in them or not. As stated in my original post, modify the quiz as necessary... it is only a quiz and does not pertain to all. :)

Magdlyn 05-15-2011 07:00 PM

Ooh! I'll play.

1. Eager to see you and reluctant to leave gf 1, sweetie D 1
2. Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates gf1, D 1
3. Interested in you and your life gf 1, D 1/2
4. Wants to be helpful gf 1, D 1 (helpful in providing lots of orgasms!)
5. Is verbally and physically affectionate gf 1, D 1
6. Wants to be romantic and sexual with you gf 1, D 1
7. Texts, emails or calls regularly gf 1, D, not lately, so 1/2 again
8. Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others gf 0, D 1
9. If you are dating other men–willing to hang in there gf 1, D 1
10. Becoming more attentive and loving over time 1 for both, until D got his new job!
11. Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts gf 1, D 1
12. Becoming more open to sharing his living space gf 1, D 0
13. Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members. gf 1, D 1/2 (as he's fine with my friends and family, but not introducing me to his family or friends)

Score: gf 12, D 11 1/2
:)

NeonKaos 05-15-2011 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Erin (Post 81619)
@NeonKaos:
Many people on here struggle by questioning whether or not a person is really interested in them, so I thought I'd share the quiz. Sure, it was written for the traditional type of male/female relationship, but these questions can still be applied to anyone who simply wants to know if their love interest is truly invested in them or not. As stated in my original post, modify the quiz as necessary... it is only a quiz and does not pertain to all. :)

I realize that. I was just saying what I had to say. Just because it was said by me doesn't mean that it's a challenge against something's right to exist.

nycindie 05-15-2011 11:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Erin (Post 81619)
Sure, it was written for the traditional type of male/female relationship...

Not just male/female, but monogamous! I had to laugh at the "Dating Program of Three." So, the person who designed this quiz advocates finding and using two other people (but no sex! Heaven forbid!) to manipulate the first one and make them jealous enough to commit. Talk about basing a relationship on trust and honesty, huh.

What if the first one isn't the type to get jealous? Wah-wah. What does one do if you want all three to commit? :eek: Wah-wah-wah.

I think I will add a comment on her blog.

NeonKaos 05-15-2011 11:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 81655)
Not just male/female, but monogamous! I had to laugh at the "Dating Program of Three."

And the part where it says "doesn't really want to date others".

LOL.

Ivy 05-16-2011 12:32 AM

On the other hand, see #9. Most traditionally monogamous men would bolt.

nycindie 05-16-2011 12:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NeonKaos (Post 81657)
And the part where it says "doesn't really want to date others".

LOL.

Yeah, he does but, not really. What the?


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