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disappearingpoet 04-22-2011 05:11 PM

Hi, I'm R.

I'm new here, just kind of browsing around. Poly in practice is sort of new to me, within the last six months or so, although it's something that my partner D and I have had in mind for a long time. D and I have been together for close to three years as a pair, most of that time we've been working to improve our communication and get more comfortable with emotions. I've had a lot of work to do on that end, but I have a professional to help with that, which has been really helpful for me.

Prior to our relationship, D lived with L, who is his brother's ex, and her two kids, D's niece and nephew for four years. Their relationship is more sibling-flavored and platonic. (D is gay, I'm... whatever I am. Gay with exceptions.) D, L, two kids, and I now all live together, and have for the past year and a half or so. My relationship with L has become less platonic as time as gone by, which is really... different, for me. I've mostly (99%) been with men, but I'm absolutely very attracted to L. It doesn't hurt my brain too much if I just roll with it and don't try to think about it too much.

At this point, each of us is free to pursue other relationships, so long as communication as a house remains open and transparent about what's going on. D has a kink playmate (he and I are kinky, L is not, but he and I are on the same end {Dom} of the kink spectrum, which would be the reason for playmates) and I've had short term playmates in that regard. L in general is more social but less sexual, and not interested in pursuing outside relationships at the moment.

Our household is really happy, I think, complicated, but happy. It only feels complicated when I try to explain it to other people, most of whom don't understand very well. But if anybody would, maybe it's people here.


(edited for clarification)

AutumnalTone 04-24-2011 06:16 PM

Welcome aboard.

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