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nycindie 03-10-2011 11:08 AM

NYC: Poly Cocktails announcement
 
Poly Cocktails is a monthly event in New York City, organized by OpenLoveNY. It's a get-together usually held in a bar/lounge in downtown Manhattan. Received this announcement today and thought I'd pass it on:

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Greetings Poly Cocktails and Open Love NY friends!

Our Poly Cocktail event has been growing and lots of new people are coming every month, which is wonderful! As we enter our fourth year and reach more and more people who are new to polyamory, we want to seize the opportunity to educate them on what polyamory is, and what it isn’t.


Since many first-timers come to Poly Cocktails, we want to make a greater effort to make them feel welcome and ensure the event stays fun and safe for everyone. To this end, we need everybody’s help to co-create a safe, respectful space at Poly Cocktails so that our community continues to attract people looking to explore beyond traditional relationship models.


To that end, the Organizing Committee plans to implement several initiatives at Poly Cocktails, starting with a clear set of House Rules. Many of these standards of respectful behavior have been implicitly expected and are not really new – but as new people come who don’t know community standards of behavior, we want to be radically honest by spelling out our expectations of behavior and clearly defining the values of this community.

*House Rules*

*L*earn – Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is *not* a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

*O*pen communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does *not*signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

*S*afe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


Guests at Poly Cocktails will be expected to follow these rules if they wish to continue attending the event. If there’s a problem or complaint, we will remind the individual(s) about the House Rules, issue a warning about behavior, or ask them to leave.


As stated at the beginning, we need your help because this is YOUR community, and we welcome your feedback and suggestions to improve our events. We also invite you to help us educate newcomers if they do not seem aware of these expectations. By working together, we can all help keep our poly community feeling respectful and safe.


Another change is that designated hosts and greeters will now be wearing nametags at each Poly Cocktails. We invite new folks to come introduce themselves, and we also ask that you find one of us if you are uncomfortable with anyone’s behavior or have concerns. We will also distribute printed copies of the House Rules at each event.


If you have any questions or comments, please write to us at openloveny@gmail.com.



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I thought this would be helpful for anyone who has attended or thought of attending, as well as those of you who might be thinking of organizing a gathering in your area.

nycindie 05-06-2011 09:49 AM

Poly Cocktails this Monday evening
 
From Open Love NY's latest email announcement:

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Come to Poly Cocktails and celebrate summer with your Poly family.

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines at the end of this email.
Monday May 9th, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire
50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Sts)
(212) 375 0665
http://affairenyc.com/


Drink specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Lots of love & happiness,

O Man & Diana


Next Poly Cocktail dates, 2nd Monday of the month:
June 13th
July 11th

POLY COCKTAIL GUIDELINES:

*L*earn - Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

*O*pen communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

*S*afe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


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Athena 05-07-2011 11:45 PM

Events in NYC on a weeknight are problematic for me, I'm not close enough during the week to attend - anyone know of weekend NYC environs events?

nycindie 05-08-2011 02:57 AM

Athena, there is another group... they have a Meetup and meet every second Sunday of each month. I believe on the Upper West Side.

http://www.meetup.com/New-York-Poly-Meetup-Group/

Athena 05-08-2011 11:01 PM

Actually it looks like they are on Mondays also? or I looked at the wrong group in the link?

Thanks

nycindie 05-10-2011 08:33 AM

They have a few regular discussion groups at varying intervals, I think mostly on Sundays, Mondays, Thursdays.

nycindie 07-10-2011 09:38 PM

Poly Cocktails for July
 
Poly Cocktails

Monday July 11th, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Sts)
(212) 375 0665

http://affairenyc.com
Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Poly Cocktails is a gathering of poly and poly-curious people, sponsored by Open Love NY.

The evening starts in the upstairs portion of Affaire, as we throw open the windows and enjoy the warmth and sunshine. As the night progresses we'll migrate downstairs. So if you come late come look for us downstairs!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines, which follow below.

Poly Cocktail House Rules
  • Learn : Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.
  • Open communications : Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.
  • Verbal Consent : We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).
  • Expectations : check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.
  • Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.
  • Safe Space : Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

cuddlecakes 07-11-2011 03:39 AM

Would be much better if these were on weekends. :/

nycindie 07-11-2011 05:02 AM

Weeknights are easier to secure a venue -- most organizations I belong to schedule things for weeknights for that reason. Otherwise, we'd be sharing a crowded space with obnoxious hipsters or we'd have to pay a large cover fee to have a room by ourselves. Also, weeknights accommodate the people who work in Manhattan but don't live there, or who aren't in town on the weekends. People who don't live here are not gonna come into the city for a couple of drinks on a weekend, especially in the summer when no one's here! There are other poly events on other days of the week, and -- weekends are for more artsy things! LOL.

If you want a poly event on weekends and don't find one to your liking, you could start your own Meetup!

nycindie 08-30-2011 04:40 AM

Poly Cocktails for September
 
Received this in an email:


Poly Cocktails

Please come and say hello!
Save the date to lounge and relax with your extended Poly family!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines at the end of this message.
Monday Sept 12, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Streets)

(212) 375 0665
http://affairenyc.com

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.
Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktail: 2nd Monday of the month: Oct 10th

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Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safe Space Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


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