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Malich 03-30-2014 09:50 PM

Good evening all
Not going to make this a major post for an introduction, I am sure you can find out more later if you want to.

I'm a married man from the UK. Currently my wife has a number of other partners and I am just starting to get back into the swing of things following a bad break up last year.

Not specifically using this site as a place to find someone... more another place to meet like minded people and get myself into the habit of interacting with them.

So, that's me in a nutshell, if you want more information then ask away and if not, then I shall just worm my way slowly into the population.


kdt26417 03-31-2014 05:48 PM

Greetings Mal,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sorry to hear about last year's breakup. How long have you and your wife had an open/poly relationship?

Glad to have you with us, I'm sure you'll find there's a lot of good people you can talk to here.

Kevin T., "official greeter" :)


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Malich 04-01-2014 01:13 AM

Good morning... Well, morning, 2am is an indecent time to be awake.

Thank you for the welcome.

My wife and I have been open since we got together about 12 years back now. She's Bi so I always knew she'd need more than me. The other guys and the poly part of it came along later. I didn't really have another long term partner until about 5 years back and didn't have someone I loved until 2012. It was losing her that was the bad break up.

So, after a year, I am just about ready to try again assuming I can find the right someone.

kdt26417 04-01-2014 02:02 AM

One never knows when the right person will come along. I always recommend starting with a platonic friendship, so you know you can trust the person, then if it turns into something more, great, but it doesn't have to.

The thing is, though, no matter how you approach a new relationship, there is always going to be a risk of a broken heart (or three). Sometimes you just have to have faith that the reward is worth the risk.

Good luck and pleasant dreams! :)
Kevin T.

Malich 04-01-2014 06:34 AM

Yeah. I am, alas, fully prepared for a few false starts.

Thankfully I have a few good friends to fall back on when tje proverbial hits the fan.

kdt26417 04-01-2014 05:05 PM

Yes, a safety net is a good thing. ;)

Malich 04-01-2014 07:58 PM

Thankfully I have two or three people who know me really well and who, despite being online only, are true friends and always there in a pinch.

kdt26417 04-01-2014 09:59 PM

Proving that the internet doesn't always drive people apart ...

Malich 04-02-2014 05:07 AM

There is that. However, as a bit of an introvert I find it a great tool for meeting people. Of my most recent partners (ans by recent I mean within the last 8 years) 8 of the 9 of them I met first online.

Mostly that's a work issue leaving me with limited energy on week nights which is improving and will do so more when I find a better job. Then I hope to be a bit more real life social :)

kdt26417 04-02-2014 05:11 AM

Well real life social is good too ... :D

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