Well hello there!
Hello everyone I am new both to the boards and to poly. I am 26 and would like to be called Queen or Ton, I have been with my 'husband' ( aka J ) for 10 years and we have recently opened up to being poly! I have a boyfriend ( C if you will) who considers himself mono and is long distance. We have only been dating for a month but it feels like much longer as we have talked for a while before I asked him out. My husband and I are currently looking for our unicorn and are not having much luck :( however I am very excited and happy at being new to poly!
Hi and welcome. It's so funny that your username is QueenTonberry - we have a member here who goes by Tonberry. I always thought it was an unusual username, but now you have me wondering if there actually is a thing called a tonberry - off to google that I go!
Regarding your statement about looking for a unicorn - there is a reason that the term is used in poly circles. It means that what you seek is actually impossible and unrealistic, so you might want to rethink that approach. If you do a search of the forum (click on the Search link at top - used Advanced Search or Tag Search for better results), you will find many heated discussions about "unicorn hunters." Basically, you don't want to be called that - and some of the discussions you find might really turn you off to this forum but be aware that it isn't just at this site that people use it in a derogatory sense. Most online poly forums I've visited tend to be critical of unicorn hunters - so it's probably best to start educating yourselves about that right away.
Read around and ask questions!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
Re: unicorn hunting ... to be on the safe side, check out this article: http://davidlnoble.com/so-somebody-c...nicorn-hunter/
So what is a tonberry anyway? (Too lazy for Google or even Wikipedia at the moment, ;))
Hope you enjoy our site and that you find the answers you need here. See the Golden Nuggets link below for some very helpful thoughts and counsel for anyone new to poly. And if you ping me here on this thread, I'll be sure to notice and respond.
Keep us posted and I wish you the best with C, etc.
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)
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A Tonberry is a creature from a game series that we play called final fantasy! Perhaps unicorn is not the right term? We are looking for a girlfriend for the both of us! I was actually about to post in the relationship board about how at first that is what I wanted but now I think I'm happy with just J and C and perhaps J should find a girl for himself but he has said many times that he wishes for us to both be with her and not someone just for himself.
Can't think of any reason to object to that per se. You can work out the details as you go along. Just let us know if you have any questions.
And thanks for the info, :)
Are you even bi? I ask because what's perplexing is that often times a man will suggest that his wife share a girlfriend with him, and she'll go along with it even though she's straight, just out of guilt. Or if he won't "let her" be with another man. But whether you're straight or bi, you don't have the 2nd problem - you've also got a BF, and I assume your hubs is okay with that! I say, if you're happy with the way things are, why keeping looking for more? Usually the best things come to us when we're NOT looking!
It is often more difficult for the male in a poly-practicing couple to find a GF, never mind one that wants and clicks with him AND his wife, too. So, if he dates independently, he'll have better chances that way.
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