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Hopeful3 10-04-2013 08:51 PM

New and need help!!
Hello to everyone,

I'm Dean from Melbourne in Australia, I currently married and was recently on a adult site with me wife.
We have always been open to fun but recently I found myself meeting a older lady that I now have strong feelings for and her for me.

The new lady in my life suggested that a "Big Love" life style could be a option I wasn't even aware of "Big Love", I looked at a few episodes and realised this could be a great life style and all could be happy.

This is where it gets interesting me thinking my wife was very open minded as we'll and that if I could make both ladies happy it wouldn't be a problem, we'll my new lady and I decided that we should all meet and have a good time and take it from there we'll we did and we all drank to much we had a good time until my new lady was kissing me and my wife got jealous.
They have been out a two times since and I always get my wife saying stuff that to my new lady things to try and make her dislike me.

Besides all that my new lady and I still see each other and my wife knows she isn't really happy and recently my wife and I had a argument and she was telling me that it's not normal to think all three of us could be together in a relationship and that just because Muslims do it that it doesn't make it ok.

I think it's a great lifestyle and all can be happy can anyone help me.

Piroska 10-08-2013 01:08 PM

You may want to try posting in the Poly Relationships Corner section, that's where more people post I think - I usually read that one and the General Poly Discussions section, not so much these others.

To sort of answer some of your questions - yes, people can love more than one person at a time, and have long term happy relationships.

No, those long term happy relationship don't have to be in a "triad" formation, which is what it sounds like you were trying to do and your wife is saying won't work.

I suggest reading a lot more on these forums; I'm relatively new here, but I've learned a TON just by reading other people's stories and just listening to what the more experienced people say.

But the biggest thing I think would be to slow down, discuss things with the wife and the other lady, and figure out if you even want to try a polyamorous relationship, if you all want to learn to work through jealousy and any other issues, etc. Get more information and get everyone on the same page, so to speak.

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