I'm new here. Is it possible for a mature single Scottish woman to explore polyamory?
I've suddenly become very interested in the prospect of making friends with a decent, kind polyamorous couple of similar age to me. How does this all work, though? How does everyone keep a healthy emotional balance? X
Hi and welcome ..
It's not only possible .....but recomended for mature Scottish women :D
How to keep things healthy ....1) .start with healthy people or the least fucked up that you can find. 2 ) communication skills ....critically important. Read up on improving yours and look to facilitate all the time 3) look on line or move to Canada
Good luck ....read as much as you can here ...
Ps ....how mature are we talking ?
Are you interested in both of them? Have they expressed an interest in you? Have you ever tried polyamory before?
But beyond that it is about reading up on it, communication and finding good people.
Definitely read about.
The biggest key is honest, upfront communication.
Each party being honest about their needs with themselves AND each other.
The "golden nuggets" thread has some good links to useful info here.
Welcome to our forum.
You're barely older than me and I'm in a poly V (the couple I'm with is married to each other), so you are certainly fine as far as age is concerned.
Some of the most important points of good communication are, putting yourself in the other person's shoes, listening as much as you talk, and not assigning blame, neither to yourself nor to others. You might want to schedule weekly or monthly sit-downs with this couple you're interested in for the first few years of your relationship.
In addition to communication, keep in mind that equal isn't necessarily identical to fair, nor vice versa. All people are unique and have their own individual wants and needs. So what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another, and sometimes one person needs more time or attention than another. This isn't a plug for self-sacrifice, it's just advising you not to try to make everyone's situation identical.
It sounds like right now you and this couple are just in the "friends zone." So let's start with that, and if things get more involved, we'll figure out how to handle it.
Keep us posted. Glad you could join us.
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