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alibabe_muse 09-03-2013 09:42 PM

Is it wrong to cancel a date
 
because the guy isn't tall enough? :o I know it might seem petty but honestly I have this "quirk" (must add this to blog) about men and it just doesn't seem fair to them even though I'm short (5'2). Once I meet a guy and they aren't 5'11 or taller, my physical attraction to them disappears. I've been like this for over 20 years now too.

And then since I haven't actually met him yet, how do I break it to him his height has disqualified him. He's the first guy on okc that didn't put his height on there. I usually don't respond if the guy is shorter than what I have found myself drawn to.

Then I wonder, what if I am missing out on a true connection? I am trusting my intuition on this and know I need to let him know I can't meet. I just don't know what to text him.:eek:

Ariakas 09-03-2013 09:56 PM

"sorry I am just not into you"...

I am 6'5 and very broad shouldered with beard.. a lot of girls just aren't into me. It happens and thats fine. Not everyone can be attracted to every physical attribute.

Dagferi 09-03-2013 10:29 PM

I used to think I could only date guys taller than me.

I was an idiot. If I would have held onto the delusion that height makes the man I would have lost out on Murf who quite frankly is one of those once in a lifetime kind of people . I have never loved another like him. Not even my husband. I am 5'7". He is 5'6"

GalaGirl 09-03-2013 10:33 PM

It's neither wrong or right.

You don't seem like you want to go.
Quote:

I am trusting my intuition on this and know I need to let him know I can't meet. I just don't know what to text him.
Could keep it simple and say "I'm so sorry. I changed my mind so I can't meet. I apologize."

And let it go.

Galagirl

alibabe_muse 09-04-2013 12:33 AM

thank you
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by GalaGirl (Post 226345)
It's neither wrong or right.

You don't seem like you want to go.


Could keep it simple and say "I'm so sorry. I changed my mind so I can't meet. I apologize."

And let it go.

Galagirl


GG you are great with words! Yes I have made up my mind. His pic on okc doesn't quite look the same as the two he sent me today. He also looks too much like DH, just shorter.

Newbipoly 09-04-2013 03:43 PM

;)
 
The one guy I dated (many years back mind you) that was shorter than me admitted to crying everyday. So I am probably not the best to answer.

gorgeouskitten 09-04-2013 03:50 PM

I used to date guys over 6 foot...then I married a man whos 5'10 and hot as hell to me. I always teased him that I;d made an exception....Well, my boyfriend is maybe 5'8. It happens, give the guy a shot :) *(and im not tall either, im about 5'5)

gorgeouskitten 09-04-2013 03:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ariakas (Post 226340)
"sorry I am just not into you"...

I am 6'5 and very broad shouldered with beard.. a lot of girls just aren't into me. It happens and thats fine. Not everyone can be attracted to every physical attribute.

A lot of women arent into that?! :p

Magdlyn 09-04-2013 04:23 PM

I admit I've got a thing for tall men too. My ex of 30 years was just my height. Before I met him I'd also been attracted to taller men. I'm 5'7" and somehow swoon over guys 6 foot tall or preferably taller. It's strange.

Ginger is 6'3". miss pixi is only 5'4" but that's ok because she's a girl!

I am kind of ashamed of my preference for tall men. But there you go. They make me feel little and protected I guess. Which is stupid because I like being tall and powerful.

Ariakas 09-04-2013 04:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gorgeouskitten (Post 226531)
A lot of women arent into that?! :p

You would be surprised.. I have met women repulsed by beards.. height etc. Its kind of funny to me..


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