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Helo 03-19-2013 06:58 AM

Make No Scents!
 
Have you ever met someone and been around them and their personal scent just...didnt click with you? It's not that they smell bad or have problems with body odor, but their own personal scent just somehow strikes you as off or not right.

What (if anything) did that eventually end up meaning?

NovemberRain 03-19-2013 07:40 AM

For me, it means there is no physical relationship. It's massively important to me.

YouAreHere 03-19-2013 12:59 PM

Saw the title of this thread and did the confused dog look thing... Nicely played. :D

I've had friends who I'd been attracted to in every other way, but their scent just made it impossible for me to be physically attracted to them any deeper than "hey, he's cute." I've read that compatibility, scent-wise is an important characteristic in attraction, and I doubt we even realize it at times, especially when it just clicks. When it doesn't click, though, at least for me, it's obvious.

Argo 03-19-2013 01:16 PM

The scent of a person is very important to me.

Recently Minnie very much wanted me to spend time with her and her girlfriend. Her girlfriend and I got along great and I found her attractive in every way but one. Her scent! I knew right away that because of this, being intimate with her just wasn't going to work for me. But that's alright, because sometimes things are just simpler that way.

I love the way Ann and Minnie smell and always take a deep breath when I hold them.

BoringGuy 03-19-2013 01:28 PM

Yup. I have a friend who smells like my father. I know exactly what you're talking about.

Malfunktions 03-19-2013 01:43 PM

*armpit smell* SUPERSTAR!
 
When I find a smell that piques my interest it instantly drives me to want to bathe in them. (I maintain my composure at least a little) It's like the defining factor between relations and attachment for me.

E smells so good I want to crawl into her sometimes.;)

But alas, I am no Jeffrey Dahlmer.

GalaGirl 03-19-2013 01:57 PM

Quote:

Have you ever met someone and been around them and their personal scent just...didnt click with you? It's not that they smell bad or have problems with body odor, but their own personal scent just somehow strikes you as off or not right.
Yep. Smelled like... Butter? Not horrible smell. But just too weird to me somehow. We remained friends and not more.

Quote:

What (if anything) did that eventually end up meaning?
Been too long since I read "Sex at Dawn" in full (the book) but I seem to recall it talked about smells. Along these excerpt lines:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ruin-your-life

Galagirl

opalescent 03-19-2013 02:50 PM

If I am attracted to someone, and they smell good to me, it doesn't matter what they do physically - work out, dig in yard, play with dogs, - they always smell good to me, even if they are a sweaty mess.

And I am with the others who noted they cannot be sexually involved with someone who does not smell good, even if otherwise attracted.

Helo 03-19-2013 06:48 PM

I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks and she's pretty wonderful in most respects. I dont find her the "OMG SEXY" that I've found in partners past but I'm not sure if that's because of the scent or I'm getting put-off by the scent because of that.

Like I said, she doesn't smell bad at all. Just something about her personal scent doesn't jive with me right.

StudentofLife 03-19-2013 07:33 PM

I once dated a man who for 3 years smelled like heaven to me. Then one day he smelled different. Not bad, just different. I mentioned it to him, he looked uncomfortable. Shortly afterward, he broke up with me. No idea what that means on a physical level, but my nose knew before my mind did.


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